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Marriage is not marriage if your peace and dignity is stolen by your spouse. Never be primitive in marriage parlance. It could cost you huge losses.

Signs to look out for when you are in a wrong relationship or marriage:

i- endless arguments;

ii- daily fight;

iii- ego filled atmosphere;

iv- abuse ( mental, physical, sexual)

v- fear;

vi- restrictions

vii- arrogance and pride.

I can go on and on. However, there’s a father to all of these LONELINES! If you are in a relationship and you are lonely, that marriage wasn’t meant to be. Companionship is the bedrock of marriage; brotherly companion, fatherly companion, friendly companion and a lover company and vice versa. If you are always doing things alone, thinking alone, planning alone, eating alone, sleeping alone, struggling alone. Hmmmm, if you are not getting stronger in all these, your doom is near! Face it with boldness! Never be silent about your peace! Don’t leave in a dungeon of snakes, their poison will eventually kill you. If change is not coming quick, please take a walk, you can’t die for being single, neither will you go to hell for it! Your life matters. It is never too late to start over with right focus. You are more than this!!!

Life ends when you stop living for Christ. There’s absolutely nothing in this world, that should take God out of your life. Whatever that is taking God out of the picture is featuring the devil. Please stay in Christ!

In my everyday journey, I have learnt a great deal about life:

I have learnt in life, you might not always have it the way you planned it.

I learnt that sometimes you rise early or earlier than your usual time, just so you could get there in time, but many things might stopped or slowed you down, it might be the vehicle speed, breakdown, traffic, accident etc. Hence, it is not about being early that always justifies how early you get there it’s about God’s appointed time.

I learnt also in life, you will meet many people, some will forcefully occupy your space; some will spit on you simply because they sat beside you; some will become unnecessary friends to you; some will step on you, you know what, you must apply different approaches to endure so as to come out safe.

I also learnt this very fast, that even when the traffic stood still, you must not allow it to stop you, find other means and proceed on your journey. *You might be late but you will get there*

I have also learnt, when it’s raining, we use umbrella, we wear what fits and still keep going, mindful of the fact that sometimes the rain come heavy, stormy, in that time we stopped a while, hide somewhere (retreat) however, where we retreat to matters.

I also learnt sometimes the ground after the rain, might be slippery, now we tread carefully, sometimes we change our shoes, just so we could get there, we are not stopping.

I learnt this too that sometimes the sun might be scorching, burning to the inner part of our body, hitting on us hard, but we continue with the struggle not stopping.

Yes! We keep going regardless what life throws at us. Sometimes, we changed the plan, the approach, the template etc; Sometimes we sought for help; other times a shoulder to lean on; some other times ears that are good in listening; sometimes just a soothing hug………And we keep going. The Strong point is in all times we must always seek God the Only help and present one. This makes the journey easy. *Be courageous, don’t GIVE UP… Just KEEP GOING.* For with God we all shall get there.

In life, there is always two sides to something. Either you are good or bad; either you are in light or you are in darkness; either you are smart or you are dull; either you are a saint or a sinner. There’s is no half to it. Is either they are for you or against you; either you are living or you are dead! You see, that is life. When the good things come to you embrace and live to enjoy it while it lasts, likewise when the bad unfolds, embrace it too and take responsibility. Because life is all about the two.

They are everywhere! They could be your relatives, your closest friends, even your spouse, at workplace they are there! They are close than you could imagine. Their focus is to bring you down. They are pretenders. They are your enemies in disguise. The shocking thing is you will never read from their faces because they are faceless. They are your trauma. But amazingly, you have a weapon against them! Shut them OUT!

There is a saying that past is past….. but can the past be left alone? we made many wrong choices, took many wrong actions, embraced wrong counsel, found wrong friendship, oh yeah! All in the past. But can the past be left alone I asked again??? When the consequences of the choices, of the actions, of the counsel and friendship are shouting at our faces, bringing about reflections. But then, I say we can leave the past if and only if we review the past to reveal the fact(s), eliminate the acts and focus to rebuild the present to have a strong future. Only then the past is past. It can finally be left alone. Just thinking aloud.

I have once thought life is just to live; and it’s going to be easy living with just my life, but as life goes on, and with lots of valleys and hills to go through; through hatred and love., One thing becomes certain, that just with your life, you cannot do much, that there’s a limit your strength can take; there is a limit your determination can take; there’s a limit your connections can take; just with your life! But when we close our eyes and open our mind, we find just the answer right there……That there’s ONE who can take us beyond our strength, who truly in HIM we can live, not just living but living to make an impact! And that is life.

My prayers are with all those who were victims of this pandemic, the Lord will reach out to you all with His healing hands. I also pray for everyone, the Blood of the Lamb will shield us. Pls take all precautions and stay safe.

In any sphere of life, no one is compelled to be responsible. Yes, there is no compulsion on how we make our choices to be or not to be responsible. It is a natural duty and obligation as we encounter life. Hence, making a choice or choices in line with one’s nature becomes more natural. To be responsible or otherwise is a choice solely made by one, and it doesn’t matter how rich one is in moral values.

However, something is certain, that we must all be prepared to accept the consequences of the choice(s) we made. Now, that is a Compulsion!

I have a lot to talk about….. Being selfless in marriage is one of the fundamental principles upon which a good home is built. Even if you marry an angel for a wife or husband, if you are selfish and setting artificial boundaries on what and what not you or your spouse must do; then I have this to tell you, it might not be boldly written especially if your spouse is God fearing, but believe me a heart is hurting. You don’t just keep thinking about yourself alone, DO NOT think about your food, your clothes, your work, your car, your health alone, pay attention to your spouse . Marriage is not a game center. Be wise and be selfless.